Self-Mastery

Articles on discipline, attention, emotional regulation, and becoming the man who leads himself.

On Fear — And How Facing It Can Change Your Life

Disclaimer: When I talk about fear in this article, I’m mostly referring to learned fears and imagined consequences, rather than the survival-based fear that exists to protect us from immediate danger.

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Freedom Requires the Ability to Be Uncomfortable

As a species, we are naturally inclined to avoid pain. For obvious reasons, this has been rather useful for our survival.

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Why Inner Peace Is a Form of Strength

Finding a sense of inner peace has been one of the greatest blessings of my life thus far.

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What I Learned From Writing a Gratitude List Every Day

Gratitude can be easily intellectualised. You can write five things you're grateful for every morning and still not actually feel particularly grateful, because gratitude, I've come to learn, isn't something you can simply think up.

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Learning to Take Back Control of Your Attention

I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was young, although my relationship with the diagnosis has changed considerably over the years. There was a period where I read everything I could about ADHD, learned about the different ways it manifests, and generally tried to understand myself through that lens....

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What Addiction Taught Me About Freedom

Partly because it’s no longer the defining feature of my life, and partly because I don’t work in the addiction space necessarily. But it is an important part of my story, and probably one of the experiences that most profoundly shaped the way I think about freedom, discipline, desire, spirituality...

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How Changing Your Beliefs Can Change Your Life

Learning what I’m about to share with you changed the course of my entire life, career, and future. At first, questioning and challenging your beliefs can be a little deflating, and the ego will probably take a hit or two. But eventually, it can provide you with a level of freedom and agency you...

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How to Reinvent Yourself as a Man: A Guide to Personal Transformation

I don’t take writing an article on this topic lightly. It’s a mammoth one, with huge responsibility attached to any advice on helping people change their lives.

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How to Become a Disciplined Man

Whether discipline to you relates more to the physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual aspects of life, its value is difficult to overstate.

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The Ambitious Man’s Dilemma: Wanting More Without Feeling Like You’re Behind

If you're an ambitious man, you probably know this feeling well: a list of goals that never stops growing, ideas piling up faster than you can execute them, and a quiet hum of dissatisfaction even when things are going well. You hit one milestone and immediately feel the pull of the next five.

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