Desexualization

Practical writing on moving from consumption to connection, integrity, and freedom from compulsion.

The Sexual Shame Men Carry: How to Reclaim a Healthy Relationship With Sex

If you ask the average man how he feels about sex, you'll likely hear words like desire, conquest, or release. But if you dig just a few inches below the surface, you will almost always find something else entirely: a profound, silent reservoir of shame.

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How to Stop Watching Porn: Why Quitting Is Only the Beginning

At that age, I had no idea what kind of influence it would have on the years that followed. I wasn't thinking about sexual conditioning, intimacy, objectification, or how pornography might affect the way I related to women. I was a teenage boy discovering sexuality, and pornography became part of...

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How to Desexualize Your Brain: A Practical Guide for Men

At the time, I didn't think much of it. Like many teenage boys, I was curious about sex, attracted to women, and suddenly had access to something that previous generations could never have imagined. I certainly wasn't thinking about what repeatedly watching pornography might be teaching me about...

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How to Stop Sexualizing Women: From Objectification to Connection

For years, I didn't fully realize how much of my attention around women was organized around sexuality. I had started watching pornography at 14, during some of the most formative years of my understanding of sex, women, and relationships. Over time, pornography, movies, cultural messages, fantasy,...

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